Surviving The Loss Of Someone You've Loved!

Mourning is the process of experiencing the feelings of grief and adjusting to life without the person who has passed on. Mourning takes time and energy, and it can be difficult to allow ourselves the space and time we need to mourn. It is vital, however, to our health and well-being that we do this. It helps to know that those powerful, overwhelming feelings will lessen with time. Grieving takes time and it's okay to cry!

There are a variety of ways we can be supported and help ourselves through grief and mourning. Below are some very helpful ways, that if tried are sure to help you learn to adjust to the sudden changes that have come into your life's ourney.

1   Support from others is one of the most important ingredients for healing grief. A grief support group can be especially helpful.
2  Accept your feelings.  Your feelings may be different and more intense than usual. It’s normal to feel all sorts of strong emotions and essential to allow yourself to feel them.
3  Express your feelings. Talk about your loss with those who are able to be supportive. Writing in a journal can also be extremely helpful.
4 Learn about grief. Knowledge about grief can be essential to your healing process. It helps us to relax about what is happening and gives us tools for coping.
5  Nurture yourself and keep yourself healthy. You may need more rest than usual. This is the time to pamper yourself - get a massage, listen to relaxing music, take walks in nature, etc.
6 Pace yourself. Avoid unrealistic expectations of yourself. Grieving takes time and energy.
7  Involve yourself in work or meaningful activity, but also leave time for grieving. It’s important to take allow time and space for grieving, but it’s also helpful to continue some meaningful activities and connection. The key is to not pressure yourself about accomplishments and goals.
8  Don’t be afraid to have fun. Even in the most trying times, the ability to enjoy humor and fun can be present. It is not a betrayal of the loved one to be able to feel some joy. We all need it.
9  Get professional help also if it is needed. If you find that you are in great distress or in long-term depression, individual or group therapy from a counselor who specializes in grief may be advisable. You can ask your doctor for a referral to someone who might be able to help.

When we are in the midst of a grief situation, it is painful and can seem overwhelming. It can be hard to imagine that we will ever feel good again, but we all have the capacity to heal from loss and create a new life without our loved one. I encourage you to learn more about grief and read the stories of others who have survived the loss of a loved one. You don’t have to go through this painful journey alone. Others have experienced similar journeys and even maybe going through what you are experiencing and because they have they are able to support you now. I Hope you have found these hints helpful.